Monthly Archives: March 2014

The Morning After (Our Early 1st Anniversary Party)


O (goes downstairs): Sh*t!

Me: What happened?

O: I fell asleep last night and forgot to come down and turn off the lights. I guess that throwing a big party is more exhausting than I thought.

Me: Or than you believed when your wife warned you.

O: Sh*t! Sh*t!

Me: I’m still right.

O (comes upstairs): Sorry, that second sh*t was literal. The cats. All over the place. I cleaned it up.

Me: Thank you! For cleaning up sh*t and being so patient. Amalinze’s arthritis must be bothering him. I’m sorry.

O: Oh, you’re welcome. Besides, I just had a birthday, which makes you think. When I’m old and in a diaper, now you’ll know what to do.

Me: Yeah. Call your sister the nurse and ask for the recommendation of a good nursing home. One staffed with Nigerian immigrants. 

O: Ha, crazy girl! That’s a good one!


AWP 2014: The Hazards and Rewards of Revealing Family


A report on one of my panels at AWP-Seattle.

BREVITY's Nonfiction Blog


Linda Joy Myers  on the AWP 14 panel “Family Trouble: Memoirists on the Hazards and Rewards of Revealing Family”:

I’m a family therapist and a memoirist, so I was looking forward to hearing writers talk about the intersection of family and memoir in the workshop “Family Trouble” moderated by Joy Castro. She is the editor of Family Trouble—The Hazards and Rewards of Revealing Family. The panelists included Joy Castro, Ralph Savarese, Sue William Silverman, Faith Adiele, and Stephanie Griest. The crowd filled the room and spilled out the doorway.

Joy Castro, author of the memoir The Truth Book, introduced a topic fraught with “trouble” for memoirists. “We are on a voyage of discovery to personal truth and family as we write memoir, and may be dealing with ‘self-erasure’ due to trauma.” Memoirists struggle with what to write and whether they should give themselves permission. We break the “family…

View original post 572 more words

The Dukkha of Loving Others: Homophobia In Africa


This year, we’ve asked some of our favorite dharma teachers, practitioners, and activists to reflect on the Four Noble Truths — suffering; the causes of suffering; cessation of suffering; and a path to cessation — from a systemic, social justice perspective. Here’s Faith Adiele on Homophobia In Africa.